Questions...

Does the Bible say anything about fertility treatments or medical assistance?

This is such an important question for us to consider, as many of us have been told that without medical intervention, our chances to have a biological child are slim. What does Scripture say?

The Word of God is so very relevant to our lives today. Even though there is nothing in the Bible that says “Lo, a woman named Beth was infertile, and God said to do IVF”, nor does it say “Thou shalt not use artificial reproductive technology,” we can still turn to it for the answers we seek. What can we learn about God’s view of medical intervention in general? Consider who Jesus called to be His confidants. One of the divinely appointed disciples that Jesus chose to be a member of His inner circle was Luke, a physician. There is no reference of Jesus telling Luke to abandon his interest in medicine, or condemning him for helping sick people with his medical training. In 1 Timothy 5:23, the apostle Paul tells Timothy to take wine for medicinal purposes for his various illnesses. These Scriptures give us a general idea of how God looks at medical intervention. Never forget, however, that Jesus Christ took literal stripes on His back for your healing. All healing comes from Him, whether facilitated through medicine, surgery, medical treatment or instantaneous, miraculous healing.

There is another nugget hidden in Scripture that may be of interest to you as part of a couple struggling with infertility. In Genesis 30, there is a reference to mandrakes, a common fruit which was believed to increase a person’s fertility. The Old Testament equivalent to clomid! This passage tells the story of Jacob and Rachel’s infertility. The mention of mandrakes is not followed by any condemnation, and eventually Rachel is blessed with children. Mandrakes are also mentioned in the Song of Solomon (7:13).

I believe the bottom line is this: God is the Giver of Life. He chooses when and how to grant life, whether He grants this miracle through medical intervention, a spontaneous and miraculous conception, or not at all. You and your spouse must decide how God is leading you, and walk in His will. This writing is done as a starting point for you to study God’s Word for yourself and find answers there. What may be God’s perfect will for one person, may not be for another. Search the Word for what God is saying to you. Remember that He writes the same way He speaks! When you seek Him in prayer, don’t forget to listen for His answers.

Taken from Sarah's Laughter Daily Double Portions

What if another child is not God's plan for us?

This is a question that I have begun to ask myself. It is hard to discuss or even really consider. It is possible to feel complete with just one child? How will I cope if this is God's plan?

I find encouragement in the truth that nothing will ever happen to me that has not been filtered through God's hands. Even though infertility has shocked me completely, I realize that God has known this would be part of my life story since before time began. Psalm 139:16 says “All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.” He knows every struggle I face today, tomorrow, and the rest of my life. This is good news.. Why? Because he knows just how to lead me through each and every trial. If His plan is for us to be a family of three, He knows how to carry me through the moment this possibility becomes a reality. He has a plan to bring me through every situation. His wisdom is infinite. His love is unending. His mercies are new every morning.

Here is a wonderful promise that God wrote that I find comfort in. John 10:10 says, “I’ve come that you might have life, and have it more abundantly.” God wants me to have an abundant life! When He spoke the stars into existence and formed the world, He did it with just a word from His lips. He so strongly wants me to have an abundant life that He came to ensure it! It is also important to notice what is missing in this Scripture. This Scripture does not say “I’ve come that you might have life and have it more abundantly as long as you have 2 or more children.” The fact that Jesus came for us is enough for us to have an abundant life in Him, whether more children are a part of God’s plan for us or not.

If God's plan for me does not include more children, He knows how to sustain me. He offers me an abundant life through Him anyway. He loves me enough to provide an amazing, fulfilling life for me, even if my family is a perfect family of 3.

Decisions

We are going to wait and see what Dr. Ke says, but I am pretty sure we will go the IVF route eventually. More successful... but also more expensive.

Since we do not have $12,000 laying around that we can actually use on IVF right now, we have a longterm goal/plan.

We are hoping to save, save, save and get Robbie's truck paid off asap! Then we will not have that note, so we can save more! We are hoping to finance IVF with a 6-month no interest loan. So, before we get started with the IVF and take out the loan we want to have enough saved to where we will pay it all off within those 6 months before interest kicks in. Lord willing maybe next fall or winter we will be able to start this process. It is a long-shot, but we are going to strive to make it work! We shall see! And who knows... God is sooo good that we might even miraculously get pregnant again within the next year without any help... Prayer works!